- Last year I turned the big 3.0 and got married - I thought that was my milestone year. As it turns out, 2009 quickly overshadowed 2008 when my husband and I found out we were pregnant. I'm going to be experiencing everything for the first time as a woman and an expectant mother which is why I'm calling this my year of firsts. I'm senior editor for Marie Claire South Africa.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
We didn't get the call
... which is a good thing! Apparently if they don't call you to give you the results of the blood test for checking if you're high risk for carrying a Down's Syndrome child, it means you're in the clear. We decided to have one because we'd already decided to terminate if I were carrying a Down Syndrome baby. Tough decision and not at all brave or admirable but the right thing for both of us. We went in for the tests on Tuesday and they said they'd call if the results were worrying and not if they were all good. I waited til Tuesday to exhale - you know me. I always play it safe. You know - just in case I missed the call, or the labs were busy and they didn't get round to my blood work.. I wish dads would get tested for something too. Why do the women have to go through everything? Those blood tests are painful! Yes, nothing compared to how the labour will hurt, I know. I know.
But really, what do the men go though besides the anxiety of becoming new dads? Big wow! Mine is still smoking and drinking and going out and carrying on as if his life hasn't changed a bit. Except perhaps his reading material. He reads 'Dad's Pregnant Too' (which I bought him) when he's on the lav.
Shame, I'll give him at least some credit though. He's been patient and kind with me and he's really excited about the baby coming. And he's even talking about changing nappies and... wait for it! Wearing a baby sling. Very 21st century dad!